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“Thoughts on Relationship and Stress”

by Adrian

Have you ever been in a relationship where you had so much stress you didn’t know what the outcome was going to be? What was the outcome? When somebody is in a relationship there is bound to be stress, whether it’s cheating, lying, fighting, or arguing. You can only love someone so much; but if they cause you stress, it can turn into a very unhealthy relationship. An example would be like you are going to feel like you have a little dog following its tail around. You’re going to feel trapped and insecure in your relationship. Although, everybody has stress in their relationship,  but it’s what you do to handle it and overcome it that makes it a healthy relationship.

I think what some people do in relationships is take their frustrations out on each other, then fight and argue because they don’t give each other space and take time away from each other. It’s good to give each other space because, if you’re always around each other there’s going to be multiple opportunities for you to fight and argue. There’s going to be a time when you need to go out and have fun with friends without being asked questions. Sometimes, the other person might feel like space is not necessary because you or the other person might feel possessive. A lot of times, if you’re feeling that way you might be on the road to an unhealthy relationship.

If the other person in the relationship causes a lot of stress, often they turn to cheating and not being truthful for the answers to where stress comes from. When a person in a relationship feels the need to cheat or not be truthful, it’s because they are not happy with themselves or the relationship that they are in. When they feel like they need to not be truthful, it’s most likely the stress in the relationship making them feel like they have to lie. The reason for that is because you can’t be truthful in a relationship when you feel like the other person is not being truthful as well; although, being truthful in a relationship does come from both parties.

A good majority for the stress in relationships is not being opened and sharing things with each other because, if you know something’s bothering you and you don’t share it, it’s going to keep bothering you. A good healthy relationship knows you can share things with the other party. Also to know you are cared for and won’t get judged. If you knows that your relationship is not going anywhere, you can do something about it by communicating effectively. You can recognize your style of communication and use it.

I think people who have been in relationships that wanted space can definitely conclude that they have had stress in their relationship. Also, the people who have not been truthful in their relationship can know that finding the better outcome will still cause stress but can cause less stress then there was. Stress in relationships can come from a lot of different things. How you choose to handle it or what outcome you want will result in if you have stress or know stress.